Looking Out for Each Other: 5 Safety Tips for Fraternity & Sorority Members

Fraternity and sorority life (FSL) is a big part of campus culture at many colleges. For lots of students, FSL is a way to build friendships, give back through philanthropy, and find a sense of belonging. At the same time, conversations about safety—especially around sexual assault—are an important part of that experience.

Research has shown that fraternity and sorority membership can sometimes be associated with higher levels of sexual assault. That can be unsettling to hear, but it’s important to remember that sexual assault is not inevitable. There are steps students can take to watch out for one another and help create safer social environments.

So, if you are a member of a fraternity or sorority, what can you do to keep yourself—and your friends—safe? Here are five practical tips to keep in mind.

1. Look out for your friends.

One of the biggest strengths of FSL is the sense of community. Use that to your advantage by checking in with the people around you. If someone is making your friend uncomfortable—trying to dance with them or not taking the hint—it can help to step in and pull your friend aside. The same goes if you notice a friend making risky choices or pushing someone else’s boundaries—for example, trying to convince someone to go home with them when they’re intoxicated. A quick conversation can help de-escalate situations and keep everyone safe.

2. Keep an eye on your drink.

It is always a good idea to know what you’re drinking and where it came from. Avoid drinking from containers that were already opened or cups you didn’t see poured.  Whether it’s a mixed drink, beer, or something like “jungle juice,” being aware of your drink is an easy and important way to reduce risk.

3. Know who the sober monitors are.

Many FSL events require sober monitors—members who stay alcohol-free so they can help if someone has had too much to drink or needs assistance. Sober monitors are there to support everyone at the event, but they can only help if FSL members know who they are. Take a moment early on to identify them or try to get a list of sobers in advance so you know who to go to if something feels off.

4. Stick with a group—and leave together.

It’s easy to get caught up in the moment at a party, but keeping track of your friends can make a big difference. Try using a buddy system or set a meeting spot and check-in time before the event starts. Small plans like these can help ensure no one ends up alone or stranded.

5. Download and use the uSafeUS® app

Safety apps can be helpful tools on campus. The uSafeUS app includes features like a fake phone call option if you need as easy exit from an uncomfortable situation, as well as access to campus safety resources if you need assistance or support. Having the app downloaded—and encouraging your friends to download it too—can add another layer of protection.

While tips like these can help reduce risk, one thing should always be clear: if someone is sexually assaulted, it is never their fault. Safety strategies can be helpful, but failing to follow them never excuses non-consensual behavior. Responsibility always lies with the person who violates some else’s consent.

Creating safe social spaces is a shared responsibility—and looking out for one another is a powerful place to start.